Tips On Writing a Sympathy Card
Many people find writing sympathy cards a bit challenging, to say the least. One never knows the exact words to say to someone who is going through something so difficult, something that we may not have ourselves experienced. In any case, please keep this in mind: no matter what you say, your words are meant to comfort that grieving friend or family member through what often is an extremely difficult time.
If you knew the deceased well, then you may choose to address the letter to a close relative, preferably someone with whom youíve previously had contact. If it is your friend who is grieving, and you did not know the deceased very well, you should address the letter to your friend instead of the family members of the deceased.
Make your introduction as simple as you possibly can. You can express condolences well by using hyperboles such as, "My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow." If you know of a short story or hold a fond memory of the deceased, feel free to write that recollection in the card as well. Often it is best to add a few of your own words, expressed from the heart. Do not mention any details of the manner of the person's death in the sympathy card. These often unpleasant memories are fresh on the families mind and they do not need any reminders. Of course, any disagreements that you may have with the deceased or the family should also be avoided.
Every word you write can have a profound meaning to the family or friend that is going through such a loss. Again, always remember to try to keep it short. Do not send money in your card Ė itís best not to mix your emotions with money, and so send any money separately.
Remember this: the sympathy card is not about you. It is about the family or friend who is mourning. Try to sum up your feelings using only short phrases. You donít have to write much as itís indeed the thought that counts. Remember the goal of your card: to let the friend or family know that you are there for them, to provide emotional support in this difficult, often heart-wrenching time.